Fears

How To Stop Being Controlled By Your Fears

You might not realize it, but deep down everyone is afraid. That doesn’t mean you have to be controlled by your fears, though.

The big difference between you and all those people you can see who are successful is that they confronted their fears. They worked through their issues to get ahead or went ahead in spite of them.

If you don’t face your fears, you’re likely to miss out on a lot in life. Someone once said that one of the saddest ways to sum up life is with could have, might have, and should have. Don’t let that happen to you.

You have a choice between controlling or being controlled by your fears.

4 Top Tips To Stop Being Controlled By Your Fears

According to Psychology Today, ” Fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger.”

Fear is a basic human instinct…

..without fear, you would take foolish risks like stepping into traffic, petting a shark or jumping off a cliff.

But too much fear is just as bad, from a risk management point of view. Too much fear will stop you from becoming your best you.

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Take Baby Steps

No matter what your fears are, from public speaking to mountain climbing, you don’t have to do it all in one go. Work out what you want to achieve and take baby steps. Each small success will increase your confidence and shrink down that fear.

By overcoming one fear at a time, you will be able to eliminate them completely. And eventually, you will stop being controlled by your fears completely.

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Don’t Do It Alone: Face Your Fears Together

No one said you had to hide your fear or overcome it all by yourself. Everyone knows that sometimes the easiest way to overcome something is with help.

Build up a support network of family, friends, and colleagues who’ll have your back and cheer you on. Find the kind of people that understand your fears and are willing to help you face them.

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Get professional advice from a coach or mentor. Sometimes the people who are trained in the areas your struggling with are the best support.

You can also buddy up with a friendly colleague. If you have anxiety issues that seem overwhelming, get professional help. Be kind to yourself and get whatever support you need.

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Practice A Positive Mindset

A positive mindset will go a long way to help dispel your fears and worries. A negativity spiral makes things worse, increasing your paralysis and helplessness. That’s not the direction you want to go.

Look around you and actively identify what’s going right in your life. Are you healthy? Do you love your home? Maybe you have a supportive family or spouse. You would be surprised how having gratitude can make you seem happier and more content.

Change your mindset and expectations to focus on abundance and success. Half the battle is learning to accept that you deserve success, you deserve to win. And most importantly, you deserve to be happy! You can focus your energy on getting there.


Take Control Of Your Story

Rewriting your narrative can knock your fears on the head once and for all. If you see yourself as a competent, successful person, then those niggles of self-doubt and that negative self-talk won’t be able to get a toe-hold.

Take control of your story, decide to be brave, confident and successful. Write down all the negative things that go round and round in your head. Make a list, and for every bad thing write a positive one. Bat down the self-doubt by setting down your skills, your strengths, your good points. You’ll soon see they outnumber the weaknesses, and you’ll be back in control of your own success story.


Final Thoughts…

The most successful people learn to face any fear, assess how real the threat is, and use that energy to get where they want to be.

In its worst form, fear can paralyze and confuse you.

But there’s no need to stay stuck. Once you learn how to take control of your fears, they shrink back down into their proper proportions.

Don’t let the fear of the unknown stop you from taking action.


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